Exactly. It has been a while since I wrote here. Not that nothing has been happening for me, is just that there had been too much things happening around me that I’m weary about writing here.

However, I just wish to share some personal takes, lessons learnt and views here in this blog. I would say that most human beings love praises than criticisms. How many people out there can accept criticisms gracefully, I think there are a few. When you hear things that are against you or not to your liking, you might tend to raise an eyebrow rather than step back, withdraw yourself from your own centre of attraction and ponder about the remarks made on you. Are they true? Do they reflect what you really are or are they just hurtful remarks make to makes you feel sad?

Everyone has their down moments. when you are down, do you wish to hear things that are soothing to your ears or do you wish to hear frank statements about what is causing you to be down and more often, these frank statements are hurtful to the ears. They are sometimes harsh facts that you have been denying or do not questions yourself hard enough to face the reality and that’s why you felt down.

I’ve heard and spoke a lot to different people lately. Listening to problems and sharing problems. I’m not a stubborn person. I do not have strong opinions about general things. I seldom make comments on the spot upon hearing a situation because I often need time to ponder over it and more importantly, I do not wish pass an unfair judgement to things that I hear from a single side.

There are also times that I would have very strong opinions over things and people, However, it would only last a moment for me. As long as I’ve reconciled with myself over many rounds of self questionings, I will choose the method to relief myself. I learn to detach from sadness,detach from situations, detach from my perspectives that I built on people and situations. Is only with a reset self, I can then choose to speak with the person that is causing the unhappiness in me or face the situation bravely. I believed that the best method in self reconciliation is to have an open heart to talk and listen and have the courage to face harsh situations. I need to hold an empty cup in my heart so that I can listen to people and at the same time, observed the available resolutions to problems I faced. A full or overflowing cup will just cloud and blur my visions and hearing to truthful confessions, earnest teachings and lessons taught from people and as well as solutions to problems.

How many people can detach themselves from being self engross in situations and agonies? How many people when faced with situations to their disadvantage could still see things and path clearly for themselves and for others. How many people could flip to the other side of the coin and get to learn that there is another side to view and see situations and about a person?

At this age, there are many lessons taught and learnt. I’m still learning. Learning to be humble, because a humble self will then be able to realise that there are still tonnes of things out there you do not know. Learning how to empathize with others rather than self empathize. It is only when you learn to think from another person point of view that you truly know how to shower care and concern. Self empathize will only make you weak and unable to face reality and neglect people’s care and concern on you. Learning to be contended and yet realise about what is lacking. This is a balancing act.

So my love ones out there who is reading this and have comments and views, please comment. either here or ask me out for coffee.